It’s officially wedding season! Both my husband’s and my cousins all decided to get married this year, and we’re pretty excited about it (one is in Croatia). If you’ve ever planned a wedding, you know just how stressful the time leading up to it, and the day itself, can be. But if all we have to do is show up, get free drinks, and dance all night? Sign us up! (Oh yeah, and all the love stuff).
Our first wedding this year was my cousin Alissa’s here in Southern California, and it couldn’t have been more beautiful. Rows of long tables under tree canopies and twinkle lights, hand drawn details, food truck tacos, and a killer band – it really was such an awesome party filled with so much love. And can we talk about her dress?!
As we make our way to all of these weddings this year, it’s got me thinking about my own wedding. This October will mark five years, and I honestly can’t believe how quickly the time has gone. But I also can’t believe how much different – better, stronger – our marriage is now than it was (almost) five years ago.
I’m no marriage counselor, and mine isn’t perfect by any means. Marriage is a lot of work, y’all. But one thing that has helped our relationship mature in the most positive way is making time for ourselves – spending time away from one another in order to have the best relationship when we are together.
It’s difficult to describe how much I’ve grown and changed from the 17 year old Sam who met her (now) husband. A Sam who was entirely too dependent on her (then) boyfriend and was entirely too anxious and insecure to be on her own. But now that I’ve found this independence – this joy in doing the things I love to do without making my husband do them too – I can’t tell you how much happier we both are. For instance, our standing Saturday morning routine is online board games with friends back home (for him) and a workout and coffee with friends in LA (for me). And it’s perfect.
Life is contradictory that way. Sometimes you have to do the opposite of things in order to improve said things. Like wearing your body out through exercise in order to have more energy. Focusing on one task at a time to effectively finish several. Actively chasing a slow life or meeting strangers to build a community. Doing those things that scare you to rid the fears.
So maybe next time you’re facing a challenge, take a look at its converse. Who knows, you just might find your answer.
We were too busy enjoying the evening to bother much with the camera, but we did snap a few quick photos and grab the tiniest bit of video (click HD in the bottom corner for better viewing quality). I hope you enjoy. ❤