As an actress, I’m so often advised to specify my “type”, to brand myself, to come up with a three word description of who I am in order to sell myself.
I get the intention behind that. I get the point of figuring out the impression you leave on people, the niche of programming into which your “look” and personality fit. I get that if you don’t decide some things, you’re merely left with overwhelm and a lack of vision.
But today I’m going to tell you something
You don’t fit in a box.
We exert so much of our energy trying to define who we are, as if the intricacies of the human mind can be diminished to five commercial words – adorably heartbreaking, girl next door. As if the sum of our traits can be designated as “quirky” or “bad ass” or “lovable sidekick”. As if our emotions and the blood pumping through our veins don’t define us simply as HUMAN BEINGS.
The same goes to personal style – that desire to pinpoint how it is we dress. For something that is solely an expression of who we are, how can we possibly reduce it to one definition? How can we confine something that is supposed to fuel our creativity, to reflect how we feel on a singular given day – to tell the world who we are – to a circle drawn in the sand?
From vintage enthusiast to minimalist, sweetly demure to edgy, pops of color to all neutrals, I can’t tell you how I define my style. I can’t tell you what it is to be a human being and thus can’t tell you that today I’ll wear a patterned maxi dress and will do so tomorrow…and the next, and the next. If I can’t – and won’t – decide it for myself, I won’t inhibit you either.
The simple truth of the matter? Do you. Wear what makes you feel good. What sparks joy. What makes your legs look killer or what hides everything altogether or what bears all or heck, just what makes you comfortable.
Because one day I feel most confident in floor hitting dresses, while others I feel most me in an oversized jacket. Some days I can’t get enough of kitschy styles, and others I want to dress as monotonously as possible. And still others I’ll want to wear sneakers when the ensemble would look “better” with heels or the very same sweater five days in a row.
We’re constantly evolving. Not year by year but second by second. Let your wardrobe reflect that. Throw out the rules, and tear down those boundaries – because the world is going to try to hold you back enough as it is. Something that is for fun should remain just that.
Or, ignore me completely and wear black every day of your life or stay up to the minute with all the current trends (because you know what? That’s cool too).
Photos taken by my new friend and talented photographer, Laurence Tan.
P.S. If you’re a fan of Anthropologie, Poshmark is an amazing resource to buy at cheaper price points (often new with tags!).