the happiness project

I said I would be back with my 2013 resolutions, and I am. Better late than never, right? We went on our trip to San Francisco this past week, and Whitney starts work today. I don’t know why I thought it would be plausible to fulfill my resolutions with the move and the craziness that came with it, but hey, at least I was optimistic. I didn’t want to go at these resolutions unenthusiastically or with half of my heart in it, so I’m starting now.


I have mentioned before that I read Gretchen Rubin’s The Happiness Project. She committed a year to being happier, with each month designated towards one area of her life, whether it be her marriage, her kids, her hobbies, etc. She kept a resolutions chart that she checked daily to hold herself accountable. Each chart for each month had a set of specific steps to help her attain these goals that would lead to a happier life. Now, I’m happy. I’m married to a wonderful husband and live in a wonderful city where I can thrive and pursue my career (not to mention I have the most adorable dog, no bias here). But that doesn’t mean that I can’t explore living each day to be happier. Life is too short not to enjoy every moment of it (I’ve most likely said this before).

The basic and most simple tool to being happy is your attitude. So along with having a more positive attitude towards everything in life, here are my resolutions for this year. I was going to write a drawn-out, step by step process of my goals, but I figured no one wants to read a novel. Just know that with resolutions you have to set specific steps to achieving them. If you are vague or general you won’t know how to reach your goals or know when you have attained them. So keep in mind that I have (for myself) steps to fulfill these resolutions. There are a lot, and I going to try to muster the task of working towards all of them daily. Gretchen Rubin gave herself a month devoted to each one, but she also continued with the resolutions from past months. I have to remember not to beat myself up if I don’t adhere to these constantly (that kind of defeats the purpose of trying to be happier, right?). Without further ado, here are my resolutions for this year (with just a couple of examples of how I’ll reach them):

1. Have more energy / Be healthier : exercise at least 3 times a week / don’t eat after 8pm

2. Expand my knowledge / Fuel my creativity : read at least 12 books / learn to do something new (sew, use a film camera, surf)

3. Relieve stress / Be positive : declutter / say “yes”

4. Work on my relationships / Cultivate Friendships : don’t nag / show up

5. Focus on finances : stick to a budget / use money to make memories, not to buy “stuff”

Some of these I borrowed/tweaked from Gretchen. All of these may seem super vague, but like I said, I have a whole document typed up on the specific steps to achieve these. I’ve also been keeping up with my photo a day project and my sentence a day journal.

What are your resolutions for the year? Are you still sticking to them? The best thing you can do is stop putting off what you want to do or what you want to change, and start right now. Who cares if you missed the first month of the year or you have fallen off your exercise regime a few times…don’t be afraid to get right back in that saddle (seriously, one of the bravest things I’ve probably ever done is literally getting back in the saddle of a horse who bucked me off when I was 10). Nobody said happiness is easy. It is something you have to actively pursue every day. Life is what you make it. Now go read The Happiness Project (I already got my mom and mother-in-law copies to read).

-wonderland sam

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actress/texan kickin' it in los angeles. always searching for my next pizza. cia agent in another life.

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